When you come upon a fork in the road, how do you decide which road to take? Each road offers its own benefits and risks. Each is a journey of its own with unique experiences. Each has a different outcome.
This is a question I’ve recently found myself wrestling over. My wife and I were in the process of settling down and hopefully starting a family this summer. We were ready to close on a dream we’ve had: a home on some land, however, only a few weeks from closing, I was offered a job in California.
We’ve wanted a home since we were first married, so you can imagine how excited we were to finally see our dream come true. When I received the job offer, it was unexpected. We were excited, but confused as what to do: stay and build our home or move. If we stayed, I will have missed a great opportunity. If we move, we will lose the home and risk starting over again if things do not work out as well as delaying starting a family.
We ultimately decided to move to California.
But how do you decide which path to take? In Robert Frost’s poem, The Road Not Taken, the traveler comes to a fork and ponders which road to take. One was a well traversed path, the other was a very lightly used path. The traveler takes the latter path and claims it has made all the difference, implying it was the better choice. For us, staying in Florida was the beaten (safe, known) path and California was the less worn path (unknown, risk).
The unknown path presents challenges and risks, but it also has the potential for great reward, especially in the form of memories.
The old adage, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained”, rings true in many situations when we reach a fork in our lives. We can take the safe route, but the reward can be little. If we take the road we’ve never gone down, it can be risky and end in disappointment, but it may also lead to new beginnings better than we could have imagined.
A singer, Anna Robinson, in her song, The Traveler, states, “Why should I worry of a journey before it’s begun?” I agree with the statement. It necessary to be prepared, emotionally, spiritually, and physically with what may come when taking an unknown path, but why worry? Never let fear take a stranglehold on your life and you will find success. You will learn new things about yourself and others. Conquer the spirit of fear, which holds many down from achieving their potential and leads to regret.
But of course, when deciding to take the unbeaten path or the well-taken road, be sure to have peace in your heart. Pray about it, Ask God for direction and wisdom. Speak to friends and family about it. Make a list of pros and cons. Be prepared, but don’t worry. Don’t live in fear.
Faith is the wind that will carry me.
Love is the shelter for when it rains.
Hope is the light that shines upon me.
and I am a traveler starting today.